Dear Savvy Auntie,
My daughter is 11. When she was a year and a half, I had her baptized. We're Catholic, so she had to have one Catholic godparent. I chose one
of my best friends and lined up my brother as her godfather.
Well,
our other best friend got her feelings hurt that she wasn't chosen as
my daughter's godmother, so I conferred with my priest and he said she
could have more than one godmother. She ended up having eight - my
girlfriends have been like sisters to me, so I couldn't leave any of
them out.
Fast-forward to today - and I want to fire them all. I
don’t think any of them are good at the job. And I know it's not a
"job," but I was hoping for a little more effort.
A couple of weeks
ago, for example, I was talking with one of the godmothers and she asked for our
address because she wanted to send my daughter a gift card for her
birthday. I suggested instead that when we come to her area that she
take her goddaughter shopping instead of sending a gift card. I
went on to say that my daughter resents all her godmothers because they
don't call or take the time to see how she is doing. For her birthday,
one godmother texted me on my phone to wish her a happy birthday, and a
couple others wished her a happy birthday via my Facebook profile. Only
one wished her a happy birthday on my daughter's own Facebook profile.
In
the conversation with this particular godmother, she said she didn't
really know what was expected and that if I told her, she would try her
best to do better. This has been a sore issue with me and I am tired of
griping about it.
Is there a guideline on what a
godmother is supposed to do?
Mom and Godmoms