Dear Stuggling Artist Auntie,
You are not alone! So many aunties (and
grandparents) have different values than the parents.
There are two
issues here. The first is your hurt feelings at your sister’s demeaning
comment about you; the second is the different value system you and your
sister have. Please talk to your sister and tell her that when she said
“a struggling artist like you," you felt demeaned and your feelings
were hurt. If you can talk to her about differences in values, a more
difficult topic, explain that your niece can only benefit from a range
of values and she doesn’t have to choose one or the other.
Since your sister obviously feels threatened
by your input, be sure to make
it clear that your niece is her parents' child and will be far more influenced
by her parents’ attitudes. Art projects with your niece can be your special activity
together, not secret but also not involving your sister.
Natalie Robinson Garfield
Homepage photo: CHOReograPH
Published: February 15, 2017