Facts of Life
I was saddened one day when we went to a water park. One of my
nieces went with us every time because she so loves it. Unfortunately,
that day she had her period. It was only her second. She had no idea how
it all "worked." She was clueless as to the facts about menstruation. I
was thankful to be there to help her and to give her some information
so she wasn't so traumatized.
She is the youngest of four girls
in her family. It is so sad to know that she is not being properly
guided by her mother, my husband's sister. That means that she is
learning everything from her friends which also means that she's not
really getting the facts.
I am especially concerned because my
own mother never really explained it all. If I don't think my niece is
getting the sexual health attention she needs for her mom, can I give it
to her myself?
[answer]
I understand your concern and am
surprised your niece doesn’t seem to know anything about menstruation.
With three older sisters, it seems she would pick it up by osmosis
and/or ask her sisters questions. Your sister-in-law may well be
assuming the same thing.
So, if you have a relationship with her
you could ask her, “How is period time in your house with all those
girls?” In other words, start off on a light note. If this seems too
touchy, how about your husband asking his brother-in-law? In this day
and age, men are far more knowledgeable, comfortable, and involved in
what used to be “female issues.”
I am wondering if your niece
feigned innocence in order to be closer to you at the water excursion;
you would be a better judge of that. In any case, closer is better for
her. Try to make a private date with her for lunch and see if you can
gently steer the topic to body changes and generalize. Many girls feel
confused, naïve, and frightened about their bodies changing; it is good
to have an Auntie to check things out with. If you feel comfortable with
telling about your teen-times, that would be a wonderful bonding
experience and she might open up even more.
Good Luck,
Natalie Robinson Garfield
www.TheSenseConnection.wordpress.com
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