By Alana from Ovuline
 
Alana works for www.ovuline.com, a site that helps women track their ovulation and get personalized advice on what they should be doing to conceive faster.
 
If you are struggling with infertility, any holiday without your own children can be difficult. This Valentine’s Day, if you are feeling like your heart tastes more like bitter chocolate than semi-sweet, here are some tips to help you spice up your sex life and melt his chocolate heart.
 
1. Turn on the Romance and Ovulate!
If you’ve been trying to conceive for a while, baby-making sex can be tedious, and sometimes, it’s just not sexy. How about trying something new this month to spice up your life? Turn off the television and get in the mood for love! Light some candles, wear something sexy, and try something new. Turn on the romance for a change and try to ovulate to procreate!
 
2. Go on a Date.
Every month, you probably chart your temperature, use ovulation sticks, and obsess about pregnancy during your two week wait. If this sounds familiar to you, why don’t you change it up this month?! Make a date to go on an actual date with the person you love. Dinner and movie, theater tickets, even cuddling on the couch with a flick and popcorn. Remind yourself that there is more to life than baby-making and enjoy your evening.
 
3. Go on Vacation.
You have probably heard of someone who went on vacation and came back pregnant. That isn’t my advice. I don’t believe that ‘just relaxing’ will make you procreate, but it will make you feel a whole lot better. Going on vacation and clearing your head will make you come home feeling more relaxed and stronger. It’s really difficult to cry about infertility when you’re sitting on the hot sand, staring at the beautiful blue ocean with a frozen drink in your hand. If you have limited funds, try a stay-cation. Try doing something fun right at home in your city. Find a cheap hotel or couples spa and do something completely new. Sometimes, you just need and deserve a vacation.
 
4. Communicate.
No one likes talking about infertility and ovulation strips every day, especially not a husband. If you find that your conversation with your partner has turned into an intrauterine insemination gab-fest, you might wish to change the topic, even just for the day. Talk about something else besides infertility and who announced a Facebook pregnancy that day. There are other non-related infertility topics, I promise you.
 
5. Buy him (or her) a Valentine’s Day Gift
Who doesn’t love a present?! Whether it’s flowers, a box of chocolates, or a simple handmade card, sometimes a small token makes the other person feel special.
 
Remember that February is heart month, so open up your own heart to your special someone.

Photo: Vichaya Kaitying-Angsulee
Published: February 5, 2013