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My brothers girlfriend wont let me hold my nephew

By Aunty Patty , Mar 6 2017

Hello everyone,
I wanted to post about this somewhere where I don’t know anyone and can get unbiased advice. My brother and his girlfriend recently had a baby, the light of my life!! Although as they are not aunts or uncles I don’t think they realise how much love I feel for their son. So much it hurts, I’m sure you know what I mean.
They currently live in my parents’ house (in my bed room actually as it’s bigger) but will be moving into their flat soon! I’m really happy for them because it’s what they’ve wanted for ages!
What’s bothering me currently is that I never get to hold my nephew , I held him in the hospital when he was born and then once when he was home but that’s been it. I’ve asked a few times for a cuddle and the excuse was if they were in their own place he would not be getting passed about so much. I understand that a new born may need peace but I also believe they can never have enough cuddles as long as they are being held safely.
My brother has been passing comment like ‘if it was just up to me’ ‘it’s not just my child’ so I’m getting the vibe of him that he wouldn’t have a problem letting me hold the baby but I’m just not sure.
Is this normal I’m the baby’s only aunty so feel maybe she doesn’t get the pain I feel because she has no siblings ?
I’m not sure where I stand I don’t want to keep asking to annoy her but also don’t want to leave them in peace and act like I’m not bothered about the wee man because I’m completely obsessed.
Any advice would be great, Love Aunty Patty x.