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I'm feeling desperate for advice.First, quick background info about me: I'm 26, I have 5 siblings, 13 blood nieces & nephews, plus 7 more from marriages, and a few nieces & nephews I’ve "adopted". There's a huge age difference between me and my siblings so we aren't really in each others’ daily lives.So recently I've started to spend time with one of my 16-year-old nieces. She'll be a junior when school starts. Today I was spending time with her and I asked her what she plans to do after...
You must be a very caring auntie to pay so much attention to your niece when you have such a large family! Take heart…you have already started the process for her to think about what she might want to...
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My daughter is 11. When she was a year and a half, I had her baptized. We're Catholic, so she had to have one Catholic godparent. I chose one of my best friends and lined up my brother as her godfather. Well, our other best friend got her feelings hurt that she wasn't chosen as my daughter's godmother, so I conferred with my priest and he said she could have more than one godmother. She ended up having eight - my girlfriends have been like sisters to me, so I couldn't lea...
I love your creative solution of making eight women your daughter's godmothers. However, your friends and cousin may not have taken it seriously since it was so unique. So, why not have a conversation...
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My 14-year-old niece thinks she’s bisexual.I'm just wandering if anyone else out there has experienced this. She told her mom, whom was very warm and inviting for her daughter to open up.One thing I disagree with is she told my niece that she didn't think she was old enough or has had enough experience with boys to be making this decision.I disagree, as I think at 14 you are aware of your sexuality - I know I was.As they live in a small community outside of a larger city, my sister thought it be...
Since many teens (girls especially) go through a stage of being attracted to girls and have major crushes on women (teachers and celebrities), it is necessary to fully know why your niece thinks she i...
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What if my nephew, age 15, is addicted to Facebook? It affects his grades, and both his parents allow him to use it. And he won't "friend" any adults. Any advice?
The jury is still out among researchers about the benefits and/or harmful effects of teens on Facebook. Are you sure his lower grades are the result of his spending time online? Many times there are o...
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My family is in turmoil. Right now, my brother is serving a jail sentence for abusing an 11 year old boy who was in his care. My mother is a mess and sees herself as a victim in all this and refuses to go for counseling. I live 500 miles away and see a psychiatrist for my own issues and to help with this. My concern is my sister's two kids, aged 2 and nearly 7. The younger one doesn't really know her uncle but my nephew really misses him. They did a lot of stuff together when my brother was livi...
My heart goes out to you and your entire family, including “the rug sweepers” and especially your brother. I believe that he is damaged, disabled, and ill. When you think about his actions in this lig...
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My bosses make fun of their seven-year-old son when he cries. They call him a girl name similar to his name. They go from no warning to yelling at him and only step in to correct minor behaviors like chewing with his mouth open when someone else corrects him. Then they turn around and dote on their two-year-old daughter. She is allowed to do whatever she wants without consequence. She steals her brother’s food and drinks at meal time and he gets yelled at because she is younger than him. I love ...
Dear Savvy Nanny,Lucky children and lucky parents to have you in their lives! The fact that the children behave so well with you means two things: they are able to respond to limits and lovingness and...
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