Forbidden to be an aunt
My sister and her husband are having their first baby in December. My sister and I have always had a rocky relationship, and because she doesn’t like my fiancé (I’m not a huge fan of her husband either), she has cut off all communication with me. When I sent her a message about a month ago asking her what was going on, she responded that she doesn’t like the way I live my life (I don’t do drugs, I’m not a drunk or a wild partier, and I am financially independent), doesn’t like who I’m with (my fiancé has a rough past, as does her husband, but has made huge improvements to better himself), and that I will never have anything to do with her, her husband, or their children. I was in the process of moving 6 hours away for a new job, and this was really devastating to me. She proceeded to block me on Facebook so that I can’t see her pregnancy or ultrasound pictures. I had asked her months ago for copies of the pictures so I could put together a scrapbook for my nephew, but she ignored me. My brother-in-law is no help either.
My parents are furious with her and are determined to “fix” this. My mom told me that the baby shower is next weekend, and that my sister made it very clear I was not invited. Granted, I am 6 hours away, but I would’ve happily gone to it had I been invited. I thought about going anyway, but I don't want to cause any drama or stress out my sister and the baby. She is, to put it nicely, very over-the-top. My mom has to relay details to me about my own unborn nephew. I didn’t even know his name until yesterday.
I’m really hurt, not only personally, but for my unborn nephew. The only other aunt he has is my brother-in-law’s sister, and she lives halfway across the country and only visits once a year. It would be nice to patch things up with my sister, but what I really want is the chance to be an aunt. I am definitely going home for Christmas and am really nervous about seeing her and my brother-in-law. I doubt she'll even let me hold my nephew. How do I handle this?