Rebuilding a Child's Trust
Nieces and nephews may choose to confide in you when they are too scared to approach their parents with a problem. Sometimes, the solution can be handled right there and then without parental interference. But occasionally, Auntie is put in a tough situation where she feels obliged to break confidences and seek help for the child.
When making a decision to get help for a niece or nephew who confided in you, it is important to try to maintain the trust and connection that the child felt, that led him to come to you. Yet it is likely that the actions you believe are necessary will be against the wishes of the child and that he will feel that you are breaking his confidence.
Make the relationship a priority
It is possible to minimize the danger done to the relationship. If a child has chosen to speak to you, you should let him know that you care about the pain he is experiencing and want to help him figure out how to cope with his problems. Be honest and let him know that you plan to tell his parents so that he doesn’t feel betrayed. You can ask the child to talk to the parents together with you so that he is completely aware of what is being communicated. You can offer to go with the child to an initial appointment with a professional to minimize the fear of the unknown. You should follow up with the child afterwards in order to inquire about how the consultation went and to ensure that the child is following through with what was suggested.