American Women, Fertility, and the Blame Name

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  • Myndie said at 8:45 pm on May 25 2011
    I love this, I hate labels and it's our choice to not have kids no matter if we are married or single. I enjoy my career, I loved college and I love spoiling my niece and nephews!
  • tordawg said at 7:06 pm on May 25 2011
    Thank you so much for this. I didn't even know that the government had decided to label me and other such awesome women such as myself "delayers." It has such a negative connotation, like procrastinating or just being plain lazy! I choose not to have children for several reasons, so I'm definitely not delaying anything. I'm living my life the way I see fit, not waiting for anything.
  • hcarter said at 6:47 pm on May 25 2011
    I made the difficult choice to not have a child due to the fact that my Profession was so frowned upon in my State and mostly by the uneducated male - Professional Massage Therapy. I went to work for Marriott International and had the full 401k package working in Resort and Destination Spas. At that time, there were no major resorts in my home State and the fact that it is a 'red' state with all the religion and the culture it implies led to me 'delaying.' I love my primary nephew and treasure the nephews and nieces my step siblings have but they are not my own child and I have given up on finding Mr. Right. I am 36. I am about to go back to college to work on an undergraduate degree as I have only 42 credit hours left to finish a History major. My financial aid will run out before I complete the degree and the current job market is evil in my experience. It was the right decision for myself and the child I chose not to have to have 'delayed' motherhood if not postponed it completely.
  • JLJebitsch said at 4:53 pm on May 25 2011
    Well said Melanie! I think the "blame name game" is ridiculous, and what is more upsetting to me is all of those women who are being labeled "delayers" and are not delaying by choice- there are still so many women who want children of their own and do not have them, for countless reasons. The landscape of Western society is changing, and as a professional working with troubled children I am happy to see that people who have that choice are waiting to have their own children for when THEY are ready- being ready to be a parent is the best gift you can give! Until then, we can be the best Aunties we can be, and continue to help "raise the village."
  • AshleyLane26 said at 10:57 am on May 25 2011
    WOW! I love this. It's incredibly hard to be "branded" or "Labeled" when you're just trying to live you life and make good choices.
  • AshleyLane26 said at 10:56 am on May 25 2011
    WOW! I love this. It's incredibly hard to be "branded" or "Labeled" when you're just trying to live you life and make good choices.
  • AshleyLane26 said at 10:56 am on May 25 2011
    WOW! I love this. It's incredibly hard to be "branded" or "Labeled" when you're just trying to live you life and make good choices.
  • AshleyLane26 said at 10:56 am on May 25 2011
    WOW! I love this. It's incredibly hard to be "branded" or "Labeled" when you're just trying to live you life and make good choices.